So these past 18 weeks have been very easy... too easy in my book.
I have maybe thrown up twice...
No big problem with smells...
I sleep great...
I wake up to pee a lot (but I already did that pre-baby, 2 times a night is now 4)
Not much acne...
And I like, but I'm not abusing food.
You're only suppose to have 300 extra calories a day. Yep, that's really not much. Since I work 45 mins from home, I have to wake up early to eat breakfast at home, or I just eat in the car. I like to pick something and stick to it for a while, it makes it easy as a routine in the morning. Right now I'm stuck on...
2 waffles, toasted, with a little bit of margarine, a glass of skim milk, and a little saucer (about 3 tbsp) of no sugar maple syrup. Could be better... but it could be worse!
Lunch, once again, I'm at work, is normally a frozen meal $1...
$1 and pretty filling
Or my most recent favorite... Wendy's .99 cent Monterey Ranch Crisp Chicken Sandwich!
I'm pretty obsessed with these suckers right now... yep, probably my lunch again today!
haha okay, I know all you health freaks are probably cringing right now! Sorry :) It's easy, cheap and it tastes good. If I were better, I would prepare extra food to not only have as another leftover meal for Charles' lunch, I would make enough for me too... but I don't.
A snack at work is normally a banana, string cheese, and almonds. Yes, I keep snacks in my drawer at work... I hate our vending machine options!
Dinner is anything from a frozen pizza with celery and carrots, salad with grilled chicken, some kind of Italian pasta/sauce/chicken, or any combo of grilled chicken/rice/veggies. That's kinda the norm around our house... Chicken, chicken, chicken. Can I prepare other meats? Sure I can! Do I want to spend the extra money for seafood, pork or beef... nope! I we get those when we go out to eat (which is ehhh maybe once a month, pending coupon or gift card) haha we're a hoot.
Oh yes, and I have "craved" as Charles would say... Cheesecake, apple pie, regular wavy potato chips, and french fries! But friends, those have, and will always be my favorite foods, nothing abnormal for pregnancy!
The only food I really don't enjoy right now is...
Yuck, I can't stand the stuff! In a sandwich, on a cracker, or even in a granola bar. It just doesn't taste good to me. Not that I loved it before, but I at least liked it, now, I steer clear of it. I don't even think I'd eat a peanut butter cookie!
So like I mentioned before, we're not going for super girly. Do I want a theme? Nope. Do I want a nursery set in a bag with matching "quilt"? Nope. Do I want to create a classic/preppy/relaxing atmosphere to soothe little miss and mom and dad? YES!
Here's the idea right now... all of this depends on getting the fabric I want (yes, I will make my own curtains, glider cushions, etc)
This is the best fabric I can find right now, but a good idea to start... It's a little busy for my taste, but will only be used sparingly.
My problem with "themes" is some people take this to the extreme... You know say your kids theme is frogs, well Aunt Suzy Q will think of you and your child EVERY SINGLE TIME SHE SEES A FROG TOY/DECORATION AND BUY IT FOR YOU... so your baby's room starts overflowing into the entire house due to the ridiculous amount of frog items you receive. But if that's your style, go for it! The other big items, stroller, carseat, high chair, will be gender neutral to use for other kids. The nursery will be Brooke's so no need to go gender neutral here.
White furniture, I think I'm going to paint one wall pink (I'm really not opposed to pink, y'all. I'm opposed to glitter, any fabrics other than cotton, denim or fleece) The dresser/changing table I think will be the aqua color :) Welp, that's the thought for now!
I grew up with a hard working mom (most of the times she had 2 jobs) a dad (he was, and still is silly, playful and loving then was burdened with Frontal Lobe Dementia diagnosed when I was in early high school), and a sister (sweet,but very much different from me in our likes and interest).
About 7 months ago at the baby shower for my precious niece, Tinsley, that my sister and her hubby adopted... she's ADORABLE!
I grew up closer to my dad's side of the family, we saw them all once a week at my Yia yia's, Grandma in Greek, for Sunday lunch. Yep, 6 girls... 2 girls from each son = a whole lotta estrogen! haha
Such beautiful ladies, inside and out!
So once I got married and gained a husband and 2 brother-in-laws, I saw life in a different light... the easy breezy fart, punch, laugh, I'll see ya when I see ya boy lifestyle; which might I add, was COMPLETELY different from what I grew up with!
haha random picture of the burial of Penny and Springer, their beagles ashes at Easter :)
Yep so Charles's side looks like this:
His dad is 1 of 3 sons > Charles is 1 of 3 sons > and Mike (Charles' brother on the right) has 2 sons.
There last girl in the Barrett family is his cousin, who is 27 and has a sweet little boy of her own. So little Miss Brooke is catching all of the Barrett's off guard with her arrival! haha I am seriously praying that she is loved by her boy cousins and included... I would hate to have a little princess on my hands that hates to play with cousins :(
My side, welp that makes #8... 6 cousins, already 1 niece and now Brooke!
Don't get me wrong, girls are great! I'm a girl and I think I'm pretty extraordinary... haha pride comes before the fall, but in my heart I didn't feel like I was carrying a little lady and was really looking forward to a son. I am not disappointed, just shocked, I always had hoped and prayed to have a son first. I had prayed this because once my Dad's dementia set in, life was tough! Mom working a lot, an older sister that I didn't have much in common with, and no strong male role model in my life... I thought an older protective brother would fix that, when in fact, the only male figure I needed to get me through the tough times was my Heavenly Father.
My aunt put it this way, "See, the Lord has already blessed you with an amazing husband (soon to be Father) you're taken care of, he will be that strong role model for you and your daughter... you don't need to worry about having a back up." Bless her heart...
Here's how I looked at the first child situation... Boy vs Girl
Boys
You love em
Pick them up and brush them off when they scratch their knees and tell them to be tough
Give them a ball or blocks and their happy
Simple t-shirt and shorts will do
Teach them about Jesus
Push them around and wrestle with them
Go camping, play sports, get messy and muddy
Teach them how to treat girls nicely
Pray they are smart and do well in school
Pray for their future wife
Prepare them to be a Godly husband and send them off
Girls
You love em
Hold them, cuddle them, dance with them, play dress up with them
Kiss every boo boo and hold them until they're okay
Give them a doll, a tea set, or some other girly toy and play make believe
Braids, bows, ruffles, pink, purple, glitter...
Teach them about Jesus
Twirl them around and be gentle with them
Stay clean, pick flowers, play with barbies and sing songs
Pray they like sports, if not take them to ballet recitals
Teach them how to be nice to boys and not just chase after them and kiss them
Pray they are smart and do well in school
Worry about peer pressure and what other girls are wearing
Shaving your legs and wearing make up
Not making the cheerleading squad
Body image and eating disorders
Being defiant and not getting along with your Mom
EMOTIONS
Getting their period
Making sure they dress modestly
Teaching them how to serve others and be hospitable
Teaching them to be graceful and polite and not walk all over people
Praying for their future husband
haha okay okay, yes, I have lived a tough 25 years! I think I've dealt with all of this, and more! Since I've been married, I cannot recount the times I have said to Charles, "Gosh! It's soooooooooo much easier to be a boy!" and all he says is "Yep"!
When we found out we were having a girl my heart sunk... I so badly wanted it to be a boy. Moment of truth here, I looked over at Charles and said "I'm so sorry, I hope you're not disappointed." Yep, punch in the gut right there. I guess I assumed if you have a boy first, they're resilient and easier to raise and having a little girl later on down the line would be ideal.
God has our sweet Brooke Grayson in his hands and she being formed perfectly inside of me. I so badly want to guard her from everything that I experienced.
I never want her to...
Feel fat
Feel like she's not beautiful, perfect and loved
Be embarrassed for having hair body parts she has to shave
Be marked as uncool or rejected from the "cool girls"
Feel MORTIFIED when she gets her period for the first time
Like a boy and he doesn't like her back
Deal with a miscarriage
And I could go on and on and on... I think the root of it is, yeah, a boy would be easy, Charles has to teach him how to be a man and I just have to be Mommy who makes yummy food that he can cuddle with but with a girl... we can't mess up. We have to teach her how much she's worth, protect her heart and teach her how to not get lost in the crowd, but then again not to trample all over everyone... gulp. Yes, this is a huge challenge and I pray daily the Lord blesses us with his grace and knowledge how to raise a woman of God.
The dreaded doll and Barbie aisle...
I was talking to my mom and whining about girls stuff... "But mom, I don't want people to buy us frilly dresses and pink sparkly crap, I want her to play with stuffed animals, play food, bubbles, balls and music toys not dolls and tea sets!" This is going to sound terrible but, I hate the word PRINCESS... I have never nor will ever want to be called or treated like a princess... all things girly make me cringe. My mom said I took my sister's Barbie's and squished their heads into their necks and would rather be outside jumping on the trampoline or playing restaurant on the sewage grate, making mud pies out of dirt and leaves... I pray Brooke is just like her momma... a firecracker!
Yep, Olivia (Raven Simone) from The Cosby Show... or Sheryl Yoast from Remember the Titans, a hilarious, fearless spitfire who is loving and compassionate to everyone she meets and wouldn't hurt a fly (but isn't afraid to touch a bug).
Sheryl Yoast: Coach Boone, you did a good job up here. You ran a tough camp from what I can see. Coach Boone: Well I'm very happy to have the approval of a 5 year old. Sheryl Yoast: I'm 9 and a half, thank you very much. Coach Boone: Why don't you get this little girl, some pretty dolls or something coach? Coach Yoast: I've tried. She loves football.
I want her to be at NCSU sporting events yelling with her mom and dad at the players not whining because she wants to play dolls and make believe with her friends instead.
Sorry for the emotional upchuck... this is life, my life, our life. My mom said "Never let Brooke know you wanted a boy," true, that's not good to dwell on something and be disappointed. We're not. We're OVERJOYED to have a healthy sweet little lady joining our family in November, I just needed to take a moment to hash it out in my over emotional blubbering brain :) Love y'all... dearly. Thanks for the prayers and support!
A sweet friends precious little girl...
The future looks bright! I can't wait until that's my lil Miss Brooke Grayson in my arms... I know her first breath will take ours away :)
Wow, 17 weeks! Almost 1/2 way in my pregnancy :) Tomorrow at 4pm we get to have our hour long ultrasound to find out the sex of the baby and make sure everything is okay! That's the biggest thing here... A HEALTHY BABY! In all honesty, we care very little if we have a boy or a girl, but what we want most is a growing baby with a chance at life, we're ready for the challenge of becoming parents and cannot wait to see our little one again tomorrow!
My husband made a sweet comment the other day, "Babe, it's like we're meeting our child for the first time!" Yes, we've seen Baby B on 2 ultrasounds, one the size of a popcorn kernel, the 2nd we could decipher head, arms, mouth, etc. Tomorrow, we will find out if we're having a boy - Troy James or a girl - Brooke Grayson! Please pray that all goes well at our appointment and the little one is cooperative :)
Well, being the silly gal I am ... I decided to try a couple of the "Old Wives Tales" to guess our little one's gender :
1. The Chinese Gender Calculator:
2. Gender Quiz
3. Craving sweet (girl) or savory (boy)? Both... but salty more so. BOY
4. If the baby’s father puts on weight during pregnancy (it's a boy) - Nope, he's lost about 10 lbs! GIRL
5. The Ring Test. Suspend a pure gold ring over the pregnant belly. If it
swings left to right, it’s a boy. If it rotates, it’s a girl. It rotates ... GIRL
6. The Key Test. If the pregnant woman picks up a key from the thin end, then it’s a girl.BOY
7. You didn't experience morning sickness in early pregnancy...barely any! BOY
8. Your baby's heart rate is less than 140 beats per minute - Higher... GIRL
9. You are having headaches it's a boy. Um, yes... many headaches :( BOY
10. You are moodier than usual during pregnancy you are having a girl - haha I have less of a filter and say what I think sooooo... GIRL
Well, that was fun! haha Looks like the very unofficial, unscientific tally is : 6 forBOY and 4forGIRL
If my vote counts... I sayBOY. I have yet to feel like it was a little lady growing inside of me, but I could be completely wrong! Either way the kid will be ridiculously adorable and so very loved :)
Nasty, stinky and sweaty after 1 hour of Zumba! Yes, the ladies wonder if I'm going to keep doing Zumba 2 times a week until November... Lord willing, I will and this child will come out dancing with all the hip shaking I do!
All dressed up for a friend's bridal shower.
A little baby belly.
Tuesday I have my AFP blood test, it tests for "'neural tube defect' (or NTD). Neural tube defects occur when there are
problems with the development of the baby's brain, skull and spinal cord
very early in the pregnancy. The defect causes part of the baby's
spinal cord to be exposed (called 'spina bifida'), or the baby's brain
fails to grow (called 'anencephaly'). People born with spina bifida can
have various levels of brain damage and often a weakness or paralysis of
their legs. However, they often lead very full and active lives. Babies
born with anencephaly cannot survive outside the womb and die soon
after birth" (source)
This is the only optional test we are taking because it is covered by insurance. Regardless of the outcome of the test, we will not abort the child, as some may choose to do. Next Wednesday... the 30th, we find out if Baby Barrett is a boy or a girl!!! I will be doing some of the old wives tales and post about them before Wednesday :)
So, I always use to get on people about not posting belly picture updates and now... look at me... I haven't posted one yet and we're 15 weeks! My apologies. But, the bigger issue here is my mind and my heart accepting that I am pregnant.
I am so thankful for this little blessing growing inside me, but I'm paranoid. Everything I feel, everything I do... I worry that something may be wrong with this pregnancy and I can't do anything about it. I am constantly "googling" things in an effort to not make a mistake.
Here's a few things that cycle through my mind on any any given day:
1. If I eat this, will it harm the baby?
2. Why did I let myself get so out of shape before I got pregnant?
3. I never thought I'd be this weight when I got pregnant and now I can't change it.
4. I'm so afraid to get in a good workout for fear of harming the baby (just zumba and walking).
5. What did I do last time to cause the miscarriage? Could it happen now?
6. Yes, every time I go to the bathroom, I have a fear I will be bleeding.
7. I compare myself to others that are expecting and how they look/act.
8. I had a hard time saying "thank you" when people wished me a happy Mother's Day for fear I wasn't really a mother yet.
9. I really want some way to know if the baby is okay, another ultrasound/peak into my womb.
10. I watch TV shows and read blogs and think that may baby might have some rare disability that I caused somehow without knowing.
11. I had hoped to be younger having my first child.
12. Will we have a hard time conceiving again? (we would love to have 3-4 kids)
And on and on and on...
I pray daily that the Lord is protecting me and the baby inside me and that he would spare us from any harm. I also pray that I would release this fear and anxiety and be able to feel beautiful and enjoy the next 5 months. I so badly want to be able to look into the future to see our little one safe and healthy in my arms in November... but I can't. I deeply desire to be the joyful, care free "Kim" and not over analyze everything that goes through my mind.
Sorry, I had to write this out. Maybe this is a way of releasing it to the Lord and abandoning outcomes, maybe it is just another way to help me clear my mind. God is good and babies are a miracle. I guess I still am having a hard time believing I am with child after our first complication. There are many women that go years without success in pregnancy and I pray sincerely that they will be filled with hope.
Thanks again for your prayers and encouragement! We are overwhelmed at the love and excitement from family and friends about our announcement. Please continue to think of us and that I would be able to relax and stop worrying... thanks ya'll.
